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Getting Into The Business

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I get asked this question all the time.  How and why did I get into the business I am in?  Well, if you have read any of my press interviews, it is no big secret.  I started off as a model and actress in mainstream Hollywood.  The problem is, the roles for petite Asian women are very few and far between.  So, when I would go in for auditions, I would end up in a room with the same 20 girls and someone with more experience (or someone willing to give sexual favors to the director) got the part before me.  It was a very frustrating experience.


I ended up meeting a couple of guys who were very smart and very professional who had a lot of great projects on their slate but were having trouble raising finances for them.  Through them I learned that actually producing my own material would not only afford me the ability to work more, but I would be in control of what I ended up doing.  I could create my own work, rather than constantly begging for work.  Although acting was still something I wanted to do, producing seemed more my speed.  I prefer to be the boss.


I ended up going out on investor pitch meetings with my new partners and they all seemed to go very well.  At the end of the meetings we'd all exchange contact info (the people who didn't have it) and go our separate ways.  Within a few hours (or a day or two) I would end up getting texts from some of these investors, saying that they really liked the project and are interested in putting money into them, but wanted to meet with me privately to discuss the terms.  When I would try and involve my partners, they would insist it be just us.  As I pushed them for more details and why just me, they would admit it was because they were attracted to me and wanted to go out with me.  Some were even bold enough to say that they would finance the project if I would just sleep with them.  I refused.  That wasn't how I wanted to be known for getting my "break."


After a couple years of this, it started to get very frustrating.  It seemed that sex was all anyone wanted from me.  I know it sounds hypocritical, considering what I am doing now, but here's the other side of the story...


I lost my virginity very late in life.  I was raised in a very tight family and never really dated until I found a way to break the grasp of my family.  I was in a (secret) relationship with a girl for many years, but we almost never had any personal time together.  I remember, just a week or so before I finally had sex with a man for the first time, telling him that I was afraid that I'd like it so much I'd become addicted to it.  In some ways, that came true.  After I took the plunge, it was all I wanted to do.  Men and women.  But finding the women, and finding men that I trusted, became a problem.


That's when I thought about just doing porn.  There's plenty of girls to have sex with and the guys are all pros.  The only downside is that I would be exposing myself to the world in this way.  So, I had a talk with my partners.  I told them my plan, but also let them know that this would be a way for me to help raise the money for our projects independently, and that I would be able to pick and choose who I sleep with in the process.  They were a little hesitant at first, but once I took the plunge, they have been nothing but completely supportive.


In February of 2017 I applied to several agencies.  I was accepted by one, but it was a big mistake.  Long story short, they pressured me to do things I wasn't ready to do right away (after they promised me they wouldn't).  It also became clear that the owner of the agency was looking for girls to have threesomes with him and his girlfriend.  I ended up having to buy out my contract so I could go with someone else.


My second agent I was with for over a year and they did a lot of great things for me.  I ended up expanding my list of acts that I perform and was able to raise my brand quite a bit, but still the top of the heap has eluded me.  But through other outlets I have been able to achieve some small successes along the way.  I'm still looking for that "big break" that will help me achieve my ultimate goals.


I hope you enjoyed my story (so far) and if you have any questions about my industry, my life or if you want to propose ways to help me achieve my goals, leave some comments for me.  But please, stay respectful and remember that even though I am an adult performer, I am still a lady.  ;)

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Ember, Such well written, interesting blogs! I'm shocked no one has left any comments.  I had no idea who you were until I read these and then looked at some of your work.  Wow!  I can relate to some of your story. I dabbled a bit in the biz when i was younger.  I was newly divorced and met a woman online with a very innocent profile.  After talking to her for a week, she revealed she was in porn and just exiting the business.  The next day I was on a plane from Seattle to LA to hang out with her. LOL  We dated for several months, but ultimately I pulled the plug because she just wasn't compatible.  One thing dating her DID do for me was to give my ego a positive boost.   I spent that summer casually dating and hooking up like I never had before and the thought occurred, that perhaps I could give porn a try too.   


I too was a late bloomer and a shy,  nerdy college student (astronomy degree).  But once the deed was done, the same inmate curiosity the led me to study the physics of the universe, meant that I needed to explore as much as possible to satiate my desire for carnal knowledge.  Secretly, in college , I hooked up with older women visited several swingers clubs and spent an evening at a dungeon just to to try to comprehend it all. (S&M is NOT my thing).  Years later, as a white collar professional,  giving porn a try was just the ultimate next step.


In the end, I auditioned with several local amateur studios and found the excitement overpowered the nervousness and was invited back to several B/G shoots. Ultimately I completed 2 shoots.   The rest fizzled because the female talent failed to show.   


One unexpected result of my porn adventure was the friendships.  I found many people in the business, were intelligent smart folks with advanced degrees, who just enjoyed being involved with something a little bit out of the ordinary.  Our local talent phlebotomist back then is still one of of my very best friends today.


For me, having sex on camera was one of the most liberating, exciting experiences I've ever had...up there with flying aerobatics in jets.     Obviously not a career thing for me , but still an enjoyable adventure in the life of a modern renaissance man.   If the opportunity ever came up again, I wouldn't say no!