Stop Sending Winks – Say This Instead to Stand Out!
Dec 19, 2024
There's nothing more disappointing than the buzz of excitement from seeing a new message... only to open it and find a wink. A single, effortless gesture that screams, "Hey, I'm interested, but I can't be bothered to say anything meaningful." For me, a wink sends the wrong message. It feels lazy, impersonal, and ultimately leaves me wondering: if this is the effort you put in now, what will a conversation - or a relationship - be like?
That's why I've made a decision: no more responding to winks. If you can't take the time to write a simple message, I'm not going to take the time to respond.
But it doesn't have to be this way. For anyone who's tempted to hit that wink button and call it a day, let me offer you an alternative. It's easy, it's effective, and I promise - it will make a much better impression.
Why Winking Isn't Enough
Let's be real: a wink requires no thought, no effort, and no creativity. It's the digital equivalent of a head nod in a crowded room - sure, you're noticed, but will it leave a lasting impression? No.
Winking shifts the burden of connection onto the other person. It says, "I'm interested, but you figure out what to say." And honestly, that's just not good enough. Building a connection takes effort from both sides, and it starts with a genuine, thoughtful message.
A Better Way to Reach Out
If you're serious about getting someone's attention, here's a simple formula to craft a message that stands out and actually gets a response:
Start with a sincere compliment. Mention something from their profile photo - maybe their smile or the kindness in their eyes. Keep it light, respectful, and genuine. Avoid anything too personal or overly familiar.
Connect with their profile. Take 30 seconds to read their profile and highlight something that resonated with you. Did they mention a favorite book, a shared hobby, or a place they've traveled to? Show that you've paid attention and that you share their interests.
Explain why you're reaching out. What caught your eye? Why do you think the two of you might have something to talk about? People love to know why they're being noticed - it makes the message feel personal and thoughtful.
End with an invitation. Wrap up by inviting them to check out your profile and suggesting that the two of you start a conversation. Keep it casual and open-ended, but make it clear that you'd like to hear from them.
It Only Takes 5 Minutes
The beauty of this approach is that it doesn't take much time - just five minutes to craft a thoughtful, personalized message. Compare that to the potential hours spent waiting for someone to respond to a wink that probably won't go anywhere.
By putting in this small amount of effort, you're showing that you're serious about connecting, and you're giving the other person a reason to respond. Who wouldn't appreciate that?
What Have You Got to Lose?
The next time you're tempted to send a wink, pause for a moment. Take five minutes to follow this method instead. I guarantee you'll see better results - more conversations, more meaningful connections, and maybe even something special.
Because at the end of the day, dating isn't about shortcuts or quick gestures. It's about showing someone that they're worth your time, attention, and effort. And isn't that what we're all looking for?