Maybe they just looking for online relationships ? A lot of men who don't have money for real meetings do this . Or some very shy men do online first and if they like person and have money come and meet and etc...
I find this to be a problem as well from the SD side. I can't tell you how many views and requests I get from SBs not in my local area. I've even stated as such that I'm looking for LOCAL people.
Most of the time what I've discovered are women who are just looking to trade pics for cash or prostitutes who happen to be in the local area looking for johns . There is no interest whatsoever to start any kind of dialog.
Now if an SD is looking for an SB outside the his local area.. he's probably got something we wants to hide. Then its up to you if you want to engage in that kind of activity.
They are not real sugar gentleman. A real daddy would want to know who he's investing in. Just because it's private doesn't mean that they can't get to know you and agree to the mutual beneficial relationship.